31 July 2011

2011 Practical Common Sense for Parents: Protecting

Through the years as a mother, I’ve observed many other parents handling their child. Two types of conspicuously behavior I’ve noticed are:
  1. The parent that isn’t protecting the child against danger in any way
  2. The parent that is overprotective
appple common sense equal moneyThe first group lets their child play outside, on the streets, without any supervision or guidance.
I’ve seen this happen – the 3 year old running towards the highway; the 5 year old alone in the streets at night, in the dark; the 4 year old playing in the lake on a sunny day while mom is all consumed by her book and sun bathing, not paying any attention to her child heading towards deeper water.
Just some of the many examples.
It’s obvious this is not correct custodianship of a child. The child has no clue yet of the dangers of traffic, or deep water or pedophiles – the adult is the one to set boundaries and/or constant supervision in these situations.
Especially when the child is very young, constant supervision is necessary when playing outside. And I mean supervision, not constantly intervene – but just be there to intervene when there is real actual danger. Be there but do not participate all the time: let the child find his way and investigate his surroundings by itself.
Inside the home, presumed the parent has taking all precautionary measures (like placing the poisonousness household things out of reach) the child needs less protection.
Setting boundaries is not about installing fear. Explain the child the danger in a calm voice, show him by actually pointing out the physical objects, do not just use words, but include the physical objects.

The second group, the overprotective parents, well, let’s see with an example:
childs bike Common Sense for ParentsThe child is enjoying himself biking on the pavement. There is a small object on his path, and the child bumps into it and he falls with his bike. He is upset because of the unexpected accident and his knee hurts – so he expresses himself by crying.
The parent hurries to the child and is all ‘oh my, how terrible!‘ and blames the pavement, the object, the biking, other children - makes a big fuss; taking the child immediately out of the situation inside the house.
In reaction to his parent’s behavior the child starts to cry even louder and feels very sorry for himself.
In this situation
  • He is taught that when he hurts himself he is entitled to feel sorry for himself and blame the circumstances. Within this the child is shown he is not responsible for what he experiences – while he is of course. It is a simple 1+1=2 situation: you bump into an object –> you fall –> you hurt (you cry for a moment). Period. That’s reality. Basic Common Sense. The law of physicality.
    Do not create and attach emotions like fear, pity, anger etc to the event. Do not transfer your fear of dangers in the reality of earth to the child. It is just that: he falls, he hurts, he cries for a moment. 
    The child simply learns: when there is an object I go around it with my bike.
  • He is taught he is special: something like this should not happen to him – by the parent making such a fuss about it and immediately taking him out of the situation into the home. The child is not special: he simply experienced the law of physicality like everybody does – when you fall on the pavement, you hurt yourself. Denying your child the opportunity to deal with the situation in common sense is actually quite abusive towards the child: it will start to experience the world more and more through his mind – instead of through what is actually here: the physical. The mind is abusive – always – to oneself and to others.

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27 July 2011

2011 Norwegian Tragedy: Anders Breivik and Geert Wilders - July 2011

Just a few days after the horrible killing incident in Norway by Anders Breivik who shot dead 76 human beings in Norway on Friday, in the Netherlands a Geert Wildersdiscussion bursts out where Dutch politicians and society are fingerpointing at Geert Wilders – a Dutch Islamofobic politician that has drawn world wide attention to himself because of his bold and wild statements on Islam.
Anders Breivik mentions Geert Wilders 30 times in his 1,500 page manifesto in which he expounds on his ideas. Breivik praises Wilders and his political Party for Freedom (PVV).
Now people reckon Geert Wilders might be indirectly responsible for the attacks committed by Anders Breivik.
No one seems to realize – or wants to realize – we are ALL to blame for what happened in Norway. By participating and allowing this system we live in and as. By building our society on ideas, opinions, self interest, money and with that divide humanity – in anti en pro, in foes and friends. Not ever considering the best interest of humanity as one body. We ARE one body - although we do not (want to) realize this and prefer to live the illusion that we are separate parts, individual persons, individual countries, individual continents – divided in and by self interest. We are our own worst enemy – personified in Anders Breivik.
Anders Breivik is the product of us all – equally. He represents what we all stand for – equally: HELL on Earth.

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13 July 2011

2011 Desteni an anti-Semitic Hitler loving Nazi-group?

hateThere are ‘Desteni-Haters’ that argue that Desteni is an anti-Semitic Hitler loving Nazi group.
They absolutely would like to eradicate the Desteni group from the face of the earth – so they say.
5575925-woman-expression-high-textured-faceWithout any evidence or even a sound base for this accusation - they merely use this as an excuse to soak themselves in hateful vicious words and spit them out into the world. They have no problem whatsoever with deliberately telling lies and spreading evil rumors - for the sake of spreading HATE
Nah – this remembers me of what Hitler and his Nazi's did: spreading lies and evil rumors about the Jews. Hitler raised the German minds potential of Hate – projected on the Jews as scapegoat.
In similar way these Desteni-Haters are trying to infect other people minds with Hate – projecting lies and evil rumors about the Desteni group. Scapegoating Desteni...
Desteni a Hitler loving Nazi group?!?!
Tell me – who are the real Nazi-look-a-likes here?!

Desteni Haters Cult

imagesThese Haters created a cult of their own – the Anti Desteni Hate Cult.
Finding meaning in plotting and conspiring in a like-minded group – CULTivating their hateful minds.
Is this fulfilling their deep rooted need to belong? Are they lost without their Hate Group? mmm yeah I think so.
Any argument these persons bring up in their petty efforts to discredit Desteni as an anti-Semitic Hitler loving Nazi-group – are completely groundless – based on assumptions, false interpretation and manipulation of words.
They - for instance - “quote” some words – but out of context  – which in itself is already quite manipulative and deceitful – and then jump to ‘conclusions’ – and present this as ‘facts’ . They never bother to investigate properly but pretend they know it all – while in fact: they ‘know nil.

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Don’t allow yourself to be infected by this Cult of Haters. Investigate for yourself what Desteni stands for: Equality for All – the end of suffering for All. A new world where all beings are free and able to express themselves freely. Heaven on Earth – beings taking care of each other, doing to each other what each wants to be done to himself.

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