Love – redefining the word love

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to participate in the duality of conditional-unconditional – instead of realizing Love is. I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to live the definition of love – the way the definition of love was taught to me. I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to mistake the love I perceived as love for Love. I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that what I learned to be love – is actually what I need to survive.

 

Definition of love - how I was taught by example & experience:

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• There is a limit to how much love I am able to receive or give
• I must be a good girl to be qualified to receive love
• I am obligated to love my parents
• I am not allowed to say or think nasty things about my parents= not loving
• To love is to please (=being considered a good kid)
• Love is not given freely and in abundance
• I am obligated to love my sisters and other family
• Love is: being faithful = you should not love someone else as much or at all
• Love is being loyal - at all cost
• I am not supposed to love strangers
• I am not supposed to love for no reason
• To love someone is to hurt someone and getting hurt
• To love is to be dependent = token of love ‘I can’t live without you’

 

Definition of love – dictionary:

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• A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
• A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.

1. Sexual passion.
2. Sexual intercourse.
3. A love affair.

• An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.
• A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction; beloved. Often used as a term of endearment.

 

New definition of love:

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• Love is unconditional – otherwise it is not love, but conditions.
• There are no restrictions nor rules to how and whom to love.
• There is enough Love for everyone.
• Love is not restricted to a certain time; love is every minute of the day.
• Loyalty is not to be mistaken for Love: loyalty is restraining Love.
• Love does not harm nor does Love restrain expression.
• Love is not a reward – Love simply is.
• Love cannot be bought – it is free and abundant.
• Someone withholding his love, is not Loving.
• Love is not soothing – but can be like a wip: to do whatever is necessary to wake you up from dreaming.
• Love has always the best interest for all at heart – never mistake self-interest for Love.
• Sex is not Love – sex is a physical expression.
• Love does not choose: either love all or love is not.
• Love is; taking responsibility for who and what you are.
• Loving yourself = Loving your neighbour as yourself; otherwise it is not Love, but self-interest.
• Love is restraining yourself from harmful actions.

 

 

Self Corrective Statements

When and as I see myself participating in conditional loving – I stop, I breathe. I realize I am not acting in love but in self-interest. I realize love is without conditions or love is not. I let go of conditions. I stand stable as the directive force – here.

When and as I see myself participating in love that is hiding what is here – I stop, I breathe. I realize I am not acting in love but in self-interest. I realize love is embracing whatever is here, in reality. I let go of hiding. I stand as embracing what is here. I am the directive force – here.

When and as I see myself participating in love that is restricted to family and friends – I stop, I breathe. I realize I am not acting in love but in self-interest. I realize I am restricting myself and all. I investigate how to let go of the restriction of family and friend-bonds. I breathe. I stand as the directive force – here.

When and as I see myself participating in back chat – in thought, words or action – I stop, I breathe. I realize I am not acting in love but in self-interest. I let go of the back chat for I realize I am participating in harming life. I am the directive force – here.